tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7129213753012457011.post5965074505950930821..comments2023-05-26T08:55:18.359-07:00Comments on Understanding & Healing From Designer Dissociation: DID etiquetteAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08256675845938876493noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7129213753012457011.post-46966535893579364782015-03-06T21:51:42.898-08:002015-03-06T21:51:42.898-08:00I think someone would get in trouble if they calle...I think someone would get in trouble if they called us "a person with DID", especially if one of the aggressive hosts or their respective "pets" were present right then and there. Some of us are about ready to snap from friends and relatives addressing us as if we hadn't already explained our multiplicity to them. We've explained that we have one shell alter who keeps our non-abusive memories available in the body, and an average of 5 normal hosts changing shifts a mandated minimum of twice a week (for mental health purposes). Only once have we been asked anything as sensible as, "To whom am I speaking?" I don't know, maybe we should feel flattered that our ability to portray a seamless composite character has worked so well no one can tell us apart, but the fact that no one WANTS to tell who we are implies that the fictional composite we portray, or the hypothetical composite we could become if we all integrated, is more important than any of the PEOPLE we are right now in real life. It feels the same as when someone assassinates their existent developing baby because their Real child, who has yet to exist, would have a different sex or a different mother or a different birth year. Some of us have spent our whole lives not being real enough, not being human enough, not being relevant enough. So maybe if we just disappear into each other's minds, become somebody completely different, a Frankenstein monster of companions, siblings, and lovers all melted into the same soul, then maybe we'll matter. Maybe we'll finally be Healed and Un-Crazy and A Person. Maybe all our individual moral and intellectual agency up to that point will simply be blips in The Healing Journey.<br /><br />It's that dissonance between how the world sees "me" and how we see ourselves that makes us bitter and argumentative about the subject of cores. Some say cores are a myth; others say they must be random alters programmed to be red herrings for future therapists; still others say we might have a core of our own, but we can't just let her pop out of hiding one day and start cannibalizing us for neurons. I guess as a therapist and a dissociative host, you would know the truth about them. But I'm not even sure if we would want to know at this point.<br /><br />I'm sorry, I really didn't mean to type a rant (although someone else would have if I hadn't), it's just that this is an ongoing sore spot for many of us.Nattie of the Clowdernoreply@blogger.com