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Children of incest or long-term sexual abuse grow up to be wounded adults with complicated emotional issues. Unfortunately, some symptoms are misinterpreted or often dismissed as "crazy", only serving to maintain a tormented victim status. We, as a society, have the power to change this dynamic. Each of us can make a difference.

Sep 24, 2008

Profile of a pedophile & global reach

John Money (7/8/1921-7/7/2006) was a professor of pediatrics and medical psychology at Johns Hopkins University from 1951 until his death. While there, Money was involved with the Sexual Behaviors Unit, which ran studies on sex reassignment surgery. He received the Magnus Hirschfeld Medal in 2002 from the "German Society for Social-Scientific Sexuality Research", for which he worked. Source: Wikopedia

It is likely you heard of the Jane/John Doe case where John Money performed a sex change operation on David Reimer (then a toddler) advising the young boy's parents to raise him as a boy and disregard feminine proclivities. David Reimer wrote his own story, As Nature Made Him, of his torturous life which ended in his suicide as a married adult.

In a 20/20 interview, David Reimer (who had reversed his childhood sex change operation beginning as a teen) and his twin brother, as adults, independently recalled follow up visits to Dr. Money as children. The brother's presence was requested purportedly to compare developmental stages. The twins stated how they hated the visits and begged their mother not to take them. Not divulging why they hated the visits, their mother told them they had to go. David said in 20/20 that "Money sexually abused him and his brother during superfluous photo shoots."

This was John Money's view of pedophilia (again cited from Wikopedia but feel free to research on your own): John Money was critical in the debate on pedophilia. He felt that both sexual researchers and the public do not make distinctions between affectional pedophilia and sadistic pedophilia, including infantophilia (occasionally referred to as nepiophilia), pedophilia and ephebophilia. For Money, affectional pedophilia is about love and not sex.

The focus of my blogs is intentionally inflicted horror and sexual violence on children. Money's view is just as harmful. A child raised to believe that sexual expressions of love are acceptable is still a child of incest. Imagine what it does to a child's psyche when they believe they "willingly" engaged in their own abuse.

John Money was one of the "prestigious" experts who served on the board of the FMSF. He abdicated his position after granting an interview to a magazine devoted to pedophilia. (Interview: John Money. PAIDIKA: The Journal of Paedophilia, Spring 1991, vol. 2, no. 3, p. 5.)

While this example does not involve dissociation, it is a clear example of how pedophiles are at every level of society including the medical field. Who doesn't believe Johns Hopkins isn't one of the best hospitals in the world? Because of my knowledge of this story and following it for more than a decade, as well as my personal history which includes male doctors, I'm wary of any male in a position of authority. Fortunately, now I have my therapist skills which allow me to be assertive and make logical and instinctual decisions about safety. Most survivors have a sixth sense about a person. Some might refer to this as reading another's energy. Bad people have bad energy. I have no other way to explain this ability at the moment.

If you explore the FMSF website, be sure to look at their Scientific Advisory Board of PhD's. One was a colleague of John Money at Johns Hopkins. There is also a note referring to the Wikopedia information, calling it "hostile and false". Please heed advice to have a statistics expert evaluate the validity of any research funded by any member of the FMSF.

What is most frightening is how far the FMSF has permeated the top levels of society. Elizabeth Loftus, a prolific researcher and member of FMSF, has appeared on Oprah. I'm still waiting for Oprah to address the survivors of sophisticated pedophilia. Recently she has been quite vocal about internet pedophiles for which I applaud her. But I implore you to ask her to give time now to adult survivors and experts in the field who treat the survivors. My requests alone are not going to make a difference.

If you have been primarily entrenched in misleading information about DID and delayed memories, please initiate your own balance of information by following links here and at my related blogs for publications by the experts in trauma and dissociation. It is easy to see the hidden agenda of a group whose main commonality is being accused by their children of childhood abuse or those having an affinity for engaging in illicit activities with children such as in the John Money example.

John Money's reach was global. As a renowned researcher at Johns Hopkins, his research went unquestioned (and unretracted long after David Reimer's story became known). The magazine devoted to pedophilia in which Money had granted an interview was also global.

Paidika: The Journal of Paedophilia (1987–1995) was a scholarly, peer-reviewed journal published by the Stichting Paidika Foundation, a Netherlands nonprofit organization. Articles drawn from it are available from a number of pro-pedophile activist websites. Its editor was Joseph Geraci and the editorial board included scientists and authors such as Frits Bernard, Edward Brongersma, Vern L. Bullough, and D. H. (Donald) Mader, some of whom campaigned in pro-pedophile activism. Being a peer-reviewed scholarly journal, Paidika was subscribed to by the British Library and by the Library of Congress. Wikopedia

The past damage caused by the prevalence of skewed and incorrect information about survivors of abuse at the hands of pedophiles can't be undone. We can begin to correct the situation though by allowing the truth to prevail to include embracing adult survivors into mainstream society. Their voices deserve to be heard. Their voices need to be heard to end the plague of pedophilia.


Anonymous said...

When i watch 'thrillers' on tv, ill nearly always point out the guilty people involved very early on! In real life i also feel like i can sense peoples intentions, the problem has been that my emotional needs have often clashed with this - so i havent been able to take action, to protect myself.

I think we have this ability because our sense our survival has been used so much more.

I dislike male authority figures. Its something im hoping will be resolved before i go back into the workplace again. In work situtaions i used ot purposely create confrontational situations with these people to prove that they dont have any control over me.

Grace said...

Yes, our senses were assaulted in so many ways. Given the example of a blind person developing "extra sensory" hearing, you can see how those repeatedly traumatized in early childhood by overwhelming or depriving the senses would develop such skills. Not to mention the ability to hear someone approaching from very far away.

Anonymous said...

I am someone whose past has resulted in my having a fixation on incest, but only between consenting adults. I enjoy the idea of consenting adults who are related having sex together. I don't have a real explanation as to why this appeals to me. I only know it does. Part of it is the fact that it is forbidden, but there are many other forbidden things I have no interest in whatsoever, so there is more to it than that. I'm not unique in this regard. There are others like me and I don't mind being this way.

The horror begins when I venture onto the internet. There are forums and websites for people who have an erotic interest in incest. Many of the people on these sites are like me, interested in incest that is consensual and between adults only. Unfortunately these sites also attract pedophiles. I can almost always tell who they are immediately. Every post they make is stained with their sickness and evil. Every thing they say is intended to promote their agenda of normalizing the sexual abuse of children.

I never realized until reading your post how my own abuse might make me more sensitive to them, better able to pick them out. I attack them whenever I see them and do my best to drive them away. But like cockroaches, they keep coming back with the same old child molester talking points.

I'm not sure why I'm writing this here except maybe to vent a little. I found your site while searching for something else, but I'm glad I did. I don't know how you'll react to this post or to who I am. I so often find myself having to defend the manifest truth that sex is for consenting adults only that I almost don't know how to talk about any of this stuff without going into that mode. I know that for you the term incest is a horrible word, filled with terrible pain and suffering, but unfortunately there isn't really any other word that I can use. We don't have a word to specifically describe consensual sex between related adults, so incest despite all its baggage and valid negative definitions, gets used instead.

I don't know if it can ever be ok or good for two adults who are related to have sex together. Part of me believes that to do that would be damaging to both of them and destructive to their relationship. Another part of me sees it as a question of free will and the right of adults to mutually consensual sex with other adults. Then there is the fact that the idea of such a sexual relationship excites me and that interferes with my ability to be objective.

But the one thing that I do know with every fiber of my being is that the sexual abuse of children is horribly evil and wrong, and I will never stop fighting those who do that whenever and wherever I find them.

I am so glad that my own abuse did not result in my becoming a pedophile and/or an abuser myself. In fact I cannot fathom how anyone who has endured abuse could become an abuser. I know that it happens, but I don't understand how or why. My own abuse makes me vigilant against abuse and abusers and this is the only response that makes sense to me.

I wish that pedophiles and abusers didn't exist. I wish they would just go away. I wish that everything about sex was positive and exciting and fun and fulfilling and good. I try not to think about the abusers and the pedophiles, but then I'm confronted with one and I cannot ignore them. I'm forced by my own sense of moral outrage and disgust to unleash my rage upon them. Sometimes they go away, but they, or someone just like them, always comes back.

Thank you for taking the pain you have endured and turning it into an unwavering determination to help others who have been hurt and make the world a better place. There is evil in this world, but it does not go unchallenged thanks to people like you.

Grace said...

Dear Anonymous,
Thank you for sharing your fixation on the blog. Rather than respond here, I will do a post in the near future. I appreciate the reminder of the importance of addressing the impact of such traumatic sexual abuse on adult sexuality. Am glad you have that perp radar online!